During the war, a military serviceman experiences physical, emotional and social stress, which can lead to mental injuries, and subsequently to the manifestation of specific reactions that disrupt everyday life and adaptation processes. Veterans have difficulty interacting with others. One of the reasons for this is their low level of activity in solving their own vital problems and issues of family life in particular. The difficulties of men's post-war adaptation largely fall on the shoulders of demobilized wives, add burdens to their worries, and complicate women's emotional and physical well-being.

Practical psychologists have developed recommendations for families that will help veterans adapt to post-war life more quickly.

1. It is important for the wife of a serviceman to understand and take into account that her husband returns from the front with a new, unique experience - war significantly changes a person. He becomes different, and this can cause some tension in families.

2. It is important to show attention and patience to the man's problems, which often arise after experiencing combat stress: increased irritability; prolonged depressive state; alienation; exhaustion etc. It is necessary to help the veteran cope with these temporary conditions.

3. It is recommended to listen attentively and with interest to what the man had to experience, what he is embarrassed about, if he needs to talk. A man should feel that he is close to a loved one who cares about him.

4. At the same time, quite often military personnel do not want to tell their relatives about what they encountered in the war, what they experienced. They are afraid to scare them, because they are sure that it will be very difficult for their loved ones to hear such a thing. This is how men protect their relatives, perhaps subconsciously trying not to destroy the resource state, give them the opportunity to remain capable of support, provide a favorable atmosphere in the family.

5. Sometimes relatives ask psychologists about how to behave better, to ask about the war or not. Note: if a fighter wants to share, it is very important to listen to everything he wants to say. If he doesn't say anything, it's important that he knows you'll hear him if he needs to.

6. In order for a man to adapt faster, he needs to be involved in his usual everyday life, to support the desire to do something for the family. "He must understand that he is needed here and is not a burden. Otherwise, a "rift" appears in the minds of servicemen - there he is a hero, and here his wife does everything herself so that he can rest, as it were."

7. It is desirable for a woman to tell her husband in moments of trusting communication how the family lived without him, what happened, what problems they faced, how they were solved. A man must regain a real picture of the life events of his relatives, so that he again feels his need and demand in the family, and not only at the front.

8. It is important to recognize and take into account the fact that the spouses have changed during the separation. It takes time to get used to each other again, to adjust everyday communication and interaction. Spouses have to build a relationship from scratch. The basis of recovery is understanding and patience. You should not neglect the creation of a favorable intimate environment.

After the war, it is important to properly support veterans and their families! So, if necessary, contact the psychologists of the center by phone +380505394699 (registrar).

Remember, your love and support is the best contribution to the quick adaptation of your hero. Together we are strong!